Embracing the New You: Self-Love After Trauma
Healing requires self-love and grace. Learn how to accept your body, your journey, and your authentic self with compassion and empowerment.
When the Mirror Feels Like a Stranger
There was a time after my treatments when I looked in the mirror and didn’t recognize myself.
My body had changed. My curves were different. My energy wasn’t the same.
I had always been strong — a doer, a perfectionist, a woman who pushed through.
But now, even my reflection asked me to pause. To see myself not as “before” or “after,” but as becoming.
For months, I resisted. I tried to fit back into my old clothes, to return to the version of me I once knew.
Until one day, I realized — that woman no longer existed.
And perhaps… she wasn’t meant to.
The Journey of Self-Love
Healing isn’t just physical recovery. It’s emotional, spiritual, and deeply personal.
When trauma shifts your life, your body, or your path, it’s easy to feel disconnected — as if you’ve lost the woman you were. But in truth, she hasn’t left you. She’s evolving. She’s calling you to meet yourself again, with tenderness.
Self-love after trauma is not vanity. It’s reclamation. It’s the act of looking at yourself with new eyes and saying:“I choose to love this version of me — because she survived.”
The Truth About the Body
Your body holds every story you’ve lived through — joy, pain, birth, loss, laughter, heartbreak. It is the keeper of your experiences, not your enemy.
After chemo, I resented my body. I blamed it for failing me, for changing, for not fitting the image I had built.
But slowly, through yoga, Reiki, breathwork, and compassion, I began to listen differently.
I realized, this body had carried me through storms. It had healed in ways I couldn’t see. It was never betraying me, it was protecting me.
That was the moment I began to love myself again — not for how I looked, but for how Ilived.
Mirror Work Practice: Meeting Yourself with Compassion
You can begin this gentle practice today.
Stand in front of a mirror. Look into your own eyes.
Take a deep breath and place one hand on your heart, one on your belly.
Whisper these words:
“I see you.”
“I love you.”
“Thank you for carrying me this far.”
Notice what comes up — tears, resistance, relief — and let it be.
Repeat daily until the voice of love grows louder than the voice of doubt.
💗This is one of the self-connection rituals we practice inside my programs, Healing The Feminine Wounds & Releasing Trauma and Root to Rise: A 6-Week Journey of Inner Liberation & Embodied Power.
Affirmations for the New You
Use these as daily reminders or write them on your mirror:
My body is wise, resilient, and beautiful.
I honor the journey that brought me here.
I release comparison and embrace compassion.
I am worthy of love exactly as I am.
I choose grace over perfection.
Each affirmation is an act of devotion — not to who you were, but to who you are becoming.
Learning to Be Gentle
Healing asks for gentleness.
You don’t need to rush to “fix” yourself. You don’t need to shrink, push, or prove.
You simply need to listen — and soften into love.
Some days, self-love will look like gratitude. Other days, it may look like tears.
Both are sacred.
When you choose to love yourself in all seasons — joy and mess, strength and vulnerability — you come home to your wholeness.
An Invitation to You
If this message touches your heart, I invite you to continue your journey of self-love and transformation inside my signature programs:
🌸Healing The Feminine Wounds & Releasing Trauma— a nurturing space to release emotional pain, reconnect with your body, and rediscover your worth.
🌿Root to Rise: A 6-Week Journey of Inner Liberation & Embodied Power— where self-love meets embodiment, and transformation becomes your daily rhythm.
✨ Begin your healing journey today at honouringthedivinefeminine.com
Closing Words
You are not who you were before — and that is something to celebrate.
The woman you are becoming is softer, wiser, and more radiant than ever before.
She knows that self-love is not a destination — it’s a practice, a prayer, a homecoming.
🌿“You are not here to perfect yourself. You are here to remember your wholeness.”
